Individual Counselling & Couples Therapy: Counsellor Catford, Counsellor Lewisham, Counselling Greenwich; Counsellor & Therapy Located for Bromley, Forest Hill
If you have answered yes to any or even all of the questions above, then it may be possible that counselling can help. Sometimes we can put off and resist reaching out for the support we know we need with the hope that things will improve or change with time. It may be you want change, but also fear it. If this feels a familiar struggle for you whether you are an Individual or a Couple, you are welcome to contact me for a no obligation free 15 minute phone consultation. Alternatively, you can email at anytime - I welcome all enquiries and aim to respond within 24 hours.
Cemaliye Deran BA (Hons), HPD Couns, MBACP.
I am a qualified and experienced Integrative Counsellor and Couples Therapist. I work both shorter or longer-term depending on the need of individuals or couples seeking therapy. I am a registered member of The British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (MBACP) and adhere to their ethical framework for good practice. In addition, I am fully insured with regular updated CRB clearance. I work from a warm and comfortable space based in Catford, which is also very easily accessed from Lewisham, Greenwich, Bromley Sydenham and London Bridge.
I would describe myself as warm and down to earth with a commitment to providing a safe, confidential and non-judgmental space. I have worked with people from diverse backgrounds and across many cultures and have a strong commitment to working with difference. I am British, of second generation Turkish Cypriot Heritage and I speak Turkish fluently.
Background & Experience
I have varied experience in the drug and alcohol field which has included organisations such as Turning Point, Bromley Alcohol Service and Pheonix Futures - Adult Residential Service. I have worked exstensively with the elderly in the social housing sector and have also been a school counsellor in a large mixed secondary school in South London. Within the school context, I offered counselling to young people of 11 to 19 years old dealing with such issues as bullying, identity, self-esteem and eating/body issues. At different times, I have also worked in NHS GP Surgeries within the local community (Southwark & Lambeth). Here, I was able to develop further my existing knowledge and experience in working with mental health issues alongside developing my Private Practice.
Some of the areas & issues I have worked with:
Body image issues
Bereavement & Loss
N.B. Please feel free to contact me about issues that are not on this list - I welcome all enquiries without obligation and if what I offer is not suitable with your needs I will endeavour to refer you on or help with information if I can.
Couples Therapy (particulary working with couples from different cultural backgrounds)
Integrative Approach: Individual Counselling
My approach is gentle, which implicitly includes the aim of developing a trusting therapeutic relationship,where it can feel safe to explore together the issues that are troubling you in your life. I work collaboratively and intuitively with individuals with the central focus of meeting specific and agreed needs for therapy. I would describe my approach as multi-dimentional and humanistic, this includes intergrating different theories which include: Person-centred, Gestalt, Existential with a Trans-cultural perspective.
I have a committment to offering a safe, non-judgemental and confidential space enabling a climate for self-reflection, increased personal awareness and an oppotunity for viewing a current issue or concern from an alternative perspective. Sometimes, change may simply mean moving towards a place of acceptance and letting go. My work is 'relational' alongside a committed valuing of the context of individual cultural experience. Whether you are experiencing anxiety, depression, relationship issues, loss or are in crisis, you will gain a greater clarity about yourself, your situation and the different choices available to you.
Research has highlighted that the quality of the ‘therapeutic relationship’ can offer an opportunity for profound healing and change. Such an enviroment gives oppotunity for deeper reflection and understanding of self and current needs. The value of time and space given for honest dialogue can offer another perspective, a shift in attitude, a chance for healing and movement towards aligning choices that truely reflect how you want to live your life.
Our close relationships can be a source of great happiness and satisfaction in our lives, and yet also of great anxiety and isolation if they start to go wrong. If our relationship is in difficulty or crisis, it can be distressing and disappointing, leaving us feeling guilty, rejected or lonely. Very often, couples will seek counselling as a means of enhancing or rescuing their relationship.
Couples therapy offers a safe supportive space in which couples have the opportunity to explore their relationship difficulties. This can help you rebuild your relationship and stay together. However, if you expressly wish to separate, then couples therapy can also help you to do that more amicably.
Relationship issues can include continued arguments and bickering without a resolution in sight; perhaps the trust has diminished or has been broken through betrayal (affairs, lies or secrets). It may be depression, tension or other health problems which have contributed to difficulties in the relationship. Usually, there is a way forward with couples counselling but it does require an effort from both partners and an acceptance that sometimes it can be a long and difficult process.
Who we are attracted to:
Many people have a conscious list of what they are looking for in a spouse or partner e.g. tall, handsome, ambitious, responsible etc. However, it may be that all of us have an unconscious list - one that is outside of our awareness. We look for someone who has parts of us that we have not developed (or been allowed to express). Our unconscious looks for love that feels familiar enough. It may not be an exact replica of mom and dad, but it is close enough; someone who for example can be fun, but is also just a little emotionally unavailable. Love that might be strong, but also a little critical.
My aim in couples therapy is to identify and work together on the problems by encouraging empathy with each other. You are given the opportunity to understand and appreciate each other's needs, build on strengths and ultimately make useful changes in your lives and your relationship. My aim is to create a safe space where honest dialogue is possible.
How do Sessions Work?
Sessions are usually weekly and can be between one and two hours in duration. This is negotiated, agreed and reviewed by 'us' throughout the therapeutic work and is also dependent on your needs as a couple and availability. I am often able to offer a degree of flexibility for working couples by offering early morning and late evening appointments.
If you would like to know more about whether couples therapy is the next step for your relationship, then please do not hesitate to contact me to discuss your needs or to book an initial session.
Practice Location & Travel Links
The Catford Practice is within easy reach of Lewisham, Greenwich, Bromley, Beckenham, Sydenham, Forest Hill, New Cross and Deptford. Catford & Catford Bridge stations are about 7 minutes walk away - Lewisham Station is also just a 5 minute bus journey. Local bus routes include 171, 202, 75, 54, 199 and 208 and within a 3/4 minutes walk away. There is a free off street parking space which can be made available on request. View Map